Don’t let anyone tell you that you are fat!

Today, I unearthed an old photograph where I am standing with my former team. I am looking quite fit in this photograph which was taken around December 2004.

I had gotten married in April 2004. You can see that I am looking fit. But my in-laws and my husband said that I was fat. At the time, I was too naive to understand that different people percieve you in different ways. To some, you may appear fit while others may see you as plump or fat.

As I said, I didn’t understand this at the time. I looked at myself from their eyes. To them, I was fat, so to me too I was fat. My parents, my relatives also listened to them. Why did I listen to them? Because I wanted to be accepted by them. I was looking for love.

My husband’s mother was a thin framed, delicate looking lady and I was measured by her standards. Obviously, I could not be like her. The problem with trying to meet somone else’s standards is that you can never meet them. I was desperate for love and acceptance from my new family. However, I never got it. It was very frustrating. In my case, frustration led to emotional eating and the subsequent weight gain.

At that time, had I stopped craving acceptance or listening or adhering to their standards, things would have turned out differently. Having said that, no one is blaming anyone here. All I am saying is never measure your self using the standards set by others.

You are unique and it is your body. Let no one tell you that you are fat or thin or beautiful or not beautiful. People will keep expressing their opinions, comments etc., but you should only listen to your own self and your body. Your decision to lose fat or gain weight should not be an outcome of people’s opinions or their ability to accept you. Rather, it should be an intutive decision based on facts and insights from your own body!

If you need advice or guidance in this matter, or simply want to speak to someone, please message me here. The fat loss journey becomes easier if you have someone who has been in the same boat as you. So, please do not hesitate to message me! I am here for you!