Why do we eat?
For nutrition, for sustenance, for survival.
What do we eat?
Food, words, emotions, feelings, our helplessness, our anger, our frustration, our worries, our sorrows, our desires and the treatment meted out to us by people we grow up with.
In India
In a ‘son hungry’ society like India, a girl child is often an unwanted byproduct. These days, a lot of places have banned things like sex determination tests and female infanticide. Hence, less affluent people have no choice but to wait for the delivery of the child to know if their prayers have been answered. Sometimes, when they ultimately get the much-desired son, they neglect the daughter completely or are simply cruel to her.
The result?
Many girls, especially from affluent households resort to emotional eating, and end up becoming obese. Their craving for recognition, affection and love from their own kith and kin transforms into their craving for food. They eat food to fulfill that emptiness inside them. Unfortunately, this becomes a never ending cycle. The more they eat, the fatter they become which makes their own people treat them with cruelty and disdain. This makes them eat more to fill the yawning chasm inside them and the cycle continues.
Most obese women and men are excessively nice and kind
People who are fat or obese are generally good friends to other people. They are nice and kind. Their craving for acceptance makes them accept all sorts of nonsense from everyone around them. People take advantage of them in all kinds of ways. And they keep eating their own feelings!
Obesity in popular media
Yes, there have been advancements in the portrayal of plus sizes in the popular media but those are few and far between. Even today, you will seldom see plus size actors playing the lead in a regular show or movie until unless the show has something to do with plus sizes. Obese people are made the butt of jokes. They are heroine’s or hero’s friends, sister, brother but never the lead. The story always revolves around slim women who can be beautified with make up and men who are tall, dark or fair and handsome in the conventional sense. A main lead whether male or female will almost never be shown as falling for a plus size, obese person. Even if something like that happens, the first challenge that the object of his or affection will face is ridicule.
Why lose weight ?
Losing weight should never be about appearance. While obesity is a potential killer and harbinger of many diseases, the decision to lose weight should be based on the desire to become a healthier human being, physically, mentally and emotionally. It is a step that you take when you decide to no longer be a victim to your circumstances. Fat loss is not about looking good, it is about letting go of all those feelings, emotions and hurts that you have eaten and are now sitting as fat in your body. Not all plus size people can be classified as obese. You know the best as far as your body is concerned!
My Fat Loss Journey 